Of course a healer can help and assist. When you discover that something is broken in your life, mind, heart, or spirit, you must go deep down, to find out the cause of the breakage. So you open up the component, examine it minutely; find the origin of the breakage or malfunction.
Then, you decide to fix it or replace it. If fixing is needed, got to do it very carefully, delicately and give it a test run. Otherwise throw it away and replace it. Clean up the place, it once occupied. This is called Closure. It is a prerequisite, for HEALING.
Many times, when love or lack of love, breaks our hearts, we allow our hearts to become brittle, hard and we close up, totally. We do not have to be so harsh, on our selves. For your own sanity, accept it. It is another lesson to be learnt. The trick is, to LET GO.
Letting go, is accepting, learning and experiencing it, as you grow up.
Letting go, is to be thankful for the experience that made you laugh and cry.
To let go, is to cherish the memories, to overcome and move on. To let go, is not, thinking sad thoughts, and forgetting.
It is having an open mind and confidence in the future.
It is neither winning or losing, nor giving in.
It is not about pride and how you appear.
It is not obsessing or dwelling in the past.
It should not leave feelings of emptiness, hurt, sadness, anger, jealousy, or regret.
It is certainly about you; all you have had and will have, soon again.
Have the courage to accept change and summon up strength, to keep moving on. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. Love is not a thing or a material object, which can be lost, when given. It is like an ocean.
It is bound to come back, if you allow it. Be prepared to open a door, clear a path, and set yourself free. Break up! No, never. You have to do it gently, respectfully, do not be hard on yourself and the other person. Don’t fight sadness. Try to make it go away. Welcome it, indulge in it, feel it. Buy yellow roses as friendship signal and become stronger.
Pain and suffering is inevitable in this world, but being miserable is optional. This brings the ball back into your coat. Pain in the human body is a signal for action. Physical harm or hurt, like an injury or a disease will cause severe pain.
Now, is the time to get a doctor to make a house call on you? The doctor will examine you thoroughly and conduct a couple of tests, to make sure what and where the malady lies. If the results of the tests are positive, the doctor will take corrective action and fix your problem. If the results of the tests are negative, you are stuck with a bigger problem, which this doctor cannot fix. It is chronic pain syndrome.
Chronic pain is long lasting, irritant, disenabling you, from doing your normal social activities: working a job, loss of memory, upset appetite, sleeplessness, perpetual fatigue, slowing down in movements, saying no to sexual pleasures and missing out on laughter and joy, which life has to offer. Your cognition, about chronic pain is fundamental to this cause.
In the primitive days, pain was associated with evil spirits, hence the witch doctors.
During the Judeo-Christian era, pain was accepted as punishment for our sins, hence profitable religions.
In Greece, pain is taken up as a challenge to deal with, hence competitive sports.
In China, pain is identified with imbalance in Yin-Yang energies, therefore Tai-chi.
Today pain is the basis of DISEASE–MEDICINE MODEL, hence dirty hospitals en route to clean crematoriums.
When you continue to accept your cognition of pain syndrome, the pain persists and gets you into a vicious loop. Doubting emotions are self fulfilling beliefs. First you lose hope and then lose control over self. The next set of emotions that take over, are anxiety, anger, revenge, for the person who you think, is responsible for your pain, depression, despondency, and finally frustration. All this is in your mind. The experts call it cognition dissonance. It is your inner turmoil resulting from contradictions in personal beliefs and behavior.
Cognitive behavior embraces a whole range of mannerisms. You become visible to others, by using supports, canes, crutches, chairs. You also use rubbing, frowning, twitching, jerking, sighing, to draw attention. You voice yourself by moaning, complaining and verbalizing.
When you are all alone you reinforce the thoughts by silly self-talk in your head. Why me? The pain hurts and hurts badly. The mind helps the body cooperate, by the absence of all brain-chemicals specially, endorphins.
Chronic pain management encompasses three primary stages. Cognitive restructuring, is achieved by asserting yourself positively. You stop self-talk thoughts, by giving a command to self. Gradually you become useful, thus boosting up your self-esteem, to get out of the loop.
Relaxation and deep breathing are recommended as the second step. Self-hypnosis, by visualizing on pleasant events, helps on mental level.
Lastly you must exercise to release brain chemicals in the system. Exercising additionally helps reconditions your muscles, tissues and stamina on the physical level.